Jun 30, 2017

Faced with a problem, the temptation is always to ask how to solve it, or to get rid of it; but an alternative is to ask what it’s trying to tell you. “We must recognise that our problems have not been randomly inflicted on us,” write the Jungian psychologists Marcella Weiner and Mark Simmons. “They have a purpose, to act as guideposts pointing the way toward healing and wholeness.” Figure out why you’re drawn to someone you also in some ways can’t stand, then, and the question of whether you should stick it out or leave may suddenly seem rather obvious. Sometimes, at least – to quote the title of Weiner and Simmons’ book – the problem is the solution.