Jan 13, 2014

Some people strive "harder and harder, endlessly pursuing perfection in a way that undermines their feelings of satisfaction in what they do have", writes the psychoanalyst Jennifer Kunst. Others get "locked in a state of paralysis in which they can't choose a path at all, because choosing to have something means choosing to not have something else". What they don't realise, Kunst adds, is that there's liberation in seeing constraints for what they are. The false hope of a magical solution gets replaced by the exhilaration of real options: things you can truly make happen.